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Childhood Messages and Core Longings

Childhood Messages and Core Longings

by AbundantWholeness | Jul 28, 2023 | Connection, Enneagram

Enneagram Wisdom: Understanding our Heart Messages A Powerful Tool for Self-Discovery and Personal Growth. The Enneagram is a helpful tool for understanding ourselves and others. It teaches us the nine different ways of experiencing the world and offers profound...

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I'm Elke, Enneagram life coach, NLP Practitioner, wife, mother and nana. I in-power women in transition on how to connect with their inner self so they can live their truth with passion and joy.

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You Don't Have to Understand Why!⁠ ⁠ As tears You Don't Have to Understand Why!⁠ ⁠ As tears overflowed and trickled down my face a, not so usual, thought came to mind… ⁠ ⁠ The word compassion and the phrase, “you don't have to understand why!”⁠ ⁠ It caught me off guard...⁠ ⁠ The usual process is judgment and shut down, as if a red warning light goes off and my whole system goes into lockdown, as quickly as possible. ⁠ ⁠ There is freedom in not having to understand why, in the moment, where the tears are coming from. ⁠ ⁠ I don’t have to make sense of them. They just want to be seen, they want to be allowed to ‘be’, to flow.⁠ ⁠ There is so much freedom in that and there's such a deeper truth in allowing our emotions to rise and flow as they need.⁠ ⁠ So often I would judge my tears, I would interrogate them as if they were a naughty child, and I would question their existence and want to know the what, how and why of their presence. ⁠ ⁠ And then I would hold them back and push them down for a more convenient time. Later…⁠ ⁠ Later is not a point in time and so there never was a later suitable to open that lid.⁠ ⁠ Part of growth is realizing that we can’t shut down some of our emotions without affecting others, it doesn’t work that way.⁠ ⁠ I’m learning to observe and allow more, without judgment or knowing why.⁠ ⁠ Allowing tears, tears of sadness, joy, or grief, any number of emotions can be tied up in tears. ⁠ ⁠ Welcome the gift in allowing them to flow...⁠ ⁠ I trust that if there is understanding to be sought, it will come in the allowing, it will come when they feel seen, acknowledged and given space to be there.⁠ ⁠ Grace and Peace 🌹🙏🌹⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #womensupportingwomen #supportivecommunity #strongwomen #thrivetogether #women #womenempowerment #heartwisewomen #compassion #trueself #enneagram #personalgrowth #self-connection
✨ Embrace Your True Self with the Enneagram ✨⁠ ⁠ Ever feel like you’re living behind a mask, unable to truly express who you are? ⁠ ⁠ The Enneagram has been a transformative tool for me, offering clarity and understanding of my true self. It’s helped me embrace both my strengths and vulnerabilities.⁠ ⁠ Curious to learn more? Check out my latest blog post and grab your FREE Enneagram guide today!⁠ ⁠ Link in my Bio.⁠ ⁠ Grace and Peace 🌹🙏🌹⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #TrueSelf #Enneagram #SelfDiscovery #PersonalGrowth #FreeGuide⁠ #heartwisewomen #compassion #growthmindset #abundantwholeness #awareness #understandingyourself #learning #enneagramcoach #enneagramtype #enneagram1 #enneagram2 #enneagram3 #enneagram4 #enneagram5 #enneagram6 #enneagram7 #enneagram8 #enneagram9⁠
Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you're feeling. To have the hard conversations.⁠ ⁠ Some may say that's normal, that doesn't require courage!⁠ ⁠ And then to an Enneagram type 9 asking for what I need and having hard conversations can feel like life and death.⁠ ⁠ What comes naturally to some, requires the greatest of courage for others.⁠ ⁠ Wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to acknowledge the struggle in each of us to be seen as we are, to engage in what we feel is hard knowing that compassion and understanding wait on the other side of vulnerability?⁠ ⁠ Compassion and curiosity are key qualities I am trying to bring up within myself as I learn how others see the world and how we act a certain way to meet a core longing we are often unaware of.⁠ ⁠ Are you a little curious about the Enneagram, or about the different personality types? ⁠ ⁠ Check out the link in my bio to download your FREE Enneagram Guide or send me a DM.⁠ ⁠ Grace and Peace beautiful friends 🌹🙏🌹⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #womensupportingwomen #empowering #supportivecommunity #strongwomen #thrivetogether #women #heartwisewomen #compassion ⁠ #growthmindset #abundantwholeness #awareness #understandingyourself #enneagram #learning #enneagramcoach
In order for connection to happen we have to allow In order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.⁠ ⁠ I've often worn a mask!⁠ ⁠ I've feared that if I was really seen I would not be enough, or I would be too much, and so a mask has covered the sadness or the excitement. ⁠ ⁠ I've worn a mask to avoid not having to share what I don't easily know for myself, what I want or what I need.⁠ ⁠ I've worn a mask to hide the disappointment or pain someone has caused me because that is easier than risking conflict or worse, hurting someone else.⁠ ⁠ I've worn a mask to please others rather than risk disappointing them.⁠ ⁠ Removing the mask can be really scarey, it is exceptionally vulnerable and the risk can seem overwhelming. However if we really want connection we have to be brave enough to allow ourselves to be seen, in all our shades.⁠ ⁠ I'm 55 years of age, and here I am learning to live without a mask because I long for deep connection and I know that means I need to be vulnerable enough to let myself be seen.⁠ ⁠ How does this post make you feel, can you relate or is it just me?⁠ ⁠ Grace and Peace 🌹🙏🌹⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #womensupportingwomen #empowerment #supportivecommunity #strongwomen #thrivetogether #women #heartwisewomen #compassion ⁠ #growthmindset #abundantwholeness #awareness #understandingyourself #enneagram #learning #enneagramcoach
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